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8 Time Management Techniques for Busy People

There are only so many hours in the day. You can’t store it, nor can you borrow more for later.

Only you can decide what you spend your time on. Naturally, you’ll want to spend your time on things that add value to your life. But with life being so busy in these modern times, what with jobs, kids, and other activities, how can you have time for those things that matter the most to you?

Luckily, you can use time management techniques that are tailor-made for busy people. Discover techniques that help simplify how you work, ensuring that you get tasks done more efficiently and giving you more time for whatever you choose.

See how these techniques can free up your time:

  1. Organize your work around your energy levels. Your productivity levels are directly related to your energy levels, so schedule your hardest tasks for when your energy levels are at their highest.

    • Any low-value tasks that require little energy, such as responding to emails, can be scheduled for the times when your energy levels are lower.
  1. Make a plan for the day. Before you go to bed, write a to-do list for the next day. When you plan ahead, you’re mentally preparing yourself for any challenges you may face.
    • This will also help to limit procrastination at the start of the day and ensure that you work faster and more efficiently.
  1. Start your day with the most important task. When you start the day off by completing your most important task, you’ll give yourself a boost of momentum and a real sense of accomplishment.
  1. Prioritize tasks. When every task is a priority, nothing is. Urgent tasks should be the highest priority, then look at any high-value tasks, while relegating low-priority tasks to the back of the queue.
  1. Learn to outsource. You don’t have to complete every task yourself. Especially those low-priority tasks. Sometimes it’s better to outsource these tasks, so you can focus your attention on the more pressing tasks.
  1. Automate repetitive tasks. Nowadays there is technology available that can help automate many of your tasks. There are tools to schedule your social media postings, create canned email responses, and automatically fill in online forms at the touch of a button.
    • Automating these tasks could save you hours a week.
  1. Cut out distractions. When you are distracted, it can take a while to get your focus back. This can greatly limit your productivity.
    • Consider turning off the notifications on your phone.
    • Invest in a pair of headphones, as this makes others less likely to approach you when you have them on.
    • Browsing social media is a big distraction and should really be avoided if you want to increase productivity.
  1. Realize that things don’t need to be perfect. It’s easy to get caught up in trying to make everything perfect. However, perfectionism will slow you down and could result in deadlines being missed.
    • Having the attitude of “that’ll do” will save valuable time. Your work will be adequate, and you’ll finish in less time.

To start, try each of these techniques. Once you find those that work best for your situation, use them daily. Your productivity will increase, and you’ll save precious time in your busy life, giving you the time to do what matters most to you.

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Finding Time as a Small Business Owner: The Top Challenges and Solutions

Or 5 Reasons You Suck at Owning a Business (OK too strong)

Small business owners are known for their tireless work ethic, constantly putting in long hours and sacrificing their personal time for the sake of their businesses. While working hard is necessary for success, it is also crucial for business owners to find a balance between their work and personal lives.

Yet, despite their best intentions, many small business owners struggle to find the time and energy to attend to tasks outside of work. In this blog post, we will explore the top challenges that small business owners face in finding free time and getting out of working 80 hour weeks, as well as the solutions to overcome them.

Here are 5 reasons owning a business can be so hard

Challenge #1: Overwhelmed by the tasks at hand
Small business owners often wear many hats, including managing finances, marketing, customer service, and more. In addition, they may supervise employees, maintain inventory, and oversee operations.

When all of these tasks pile up, it can be overwhelming and lead to long days. One solution to this problem is to prioritize tasks, create to-do lists, and delegate more responsibilities to other employees, if possible.

Challenge #2: Not delegating enough
While delegating may seem like an easy solution, many business owners fail to delegate enough of their work. Instead, they might feel that they are the only one who can complete a task correctly or efficiently.

Learning to trust and delegate to employees is crucial to finding time outside of work, not to mention it can also help improve morale and motivation among employees.

Challenge #3: Always available to clients/customers
Small business owners might feel pressured to always be available to clients or customers, leading to feelings of guilt or anxiety when they cannot meet these demands.

Setting boundaries by having specific hours of operation or designating an employee to handle customer service calls can help alleviate these pressures.

Challenge #4: Difficulty prioritizing personal tasks
When small business owners finally have free time, they may struggle to complete personal tasks, such as running errands or spending time with family and friends.

Block scheduling time for personal tasks, such as carving out a few hours each week for a hobby or setting aside time for a date night, can help prioritize personal time.

Challenge #5: Lack of self-care
Small business owners may frequently put their business needs ahead of their own. However, this can lead to burnout and health problems.

Making time for exercise, meditation, or other self-care activities can help business owners stay energized, focused, and productive.


In conclusion, small business owners face many challenges in finding free time and getting out of working 80 hour weeks. However, by prioritizing tasks, delegating responsibilities, setting boundaries, prioritizing personal time, and practicing self-care, business owners can overcome these challenges and lead a more balanced life.

Remember, a healthier and happier small business owner equals a healthier and happier business.

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7 Proven Ways Reframing Can Elevate Your Logic and Deduction Skills

You’ve read the self-help books, you’ve attended the seminars, but you’re still finding yourself paralyzed when it comes to making major decisions. Sound familiar?

Well, the solution might be simpler than you think. It may lie in a process called reframing, a technique that revolves around shifting your perspective to unlock your decision-making power.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer

Combining reframing with logical thought, deduction, and critical thinking could be your ticket to making better, more confident decisions. So let’s dive into the seven ways to use reframing to enhance your decision-making prowess.

1. Unmask Negative Thoughts: Often, fear and indecision stem from negative thinking patterns. Reframing helps you identify these patterns, enabling you to transform them into positive affirmations and develop a more optimistic outlook.

2. Challenge Assumptions: Assumptions act as barriers to logical thought. Reframing encourages you to challenge these assumptions, opening your mind to new possibilities and allowing for a more objective and logical decision-making process.

3. Encourage Empathy: By reframing a situation from another’s perspective, you can gain empathy and a deeper understanding of their actions. This can be useful in personal as well as professional decisions.

4. Broaden Your Vision: Reframing helps you see beyond your immediate sphere, allowing you to consider the bigger picture. This broadened vision can, in turn, enhance your deduction and critical thinking skills.

5. Learn from Failure: Negative experiences can be reframed into learning opportunities. This shift in perspective can help you make informed future decisions.

6. Eliminate Perfectionism: Reframing perfectionism as a hindrance rather than an asset can free you from the chains of indecision and procrastination, aiding you in making timely and efficient decisions.

7. Boost Confidence: Reframing self-doubt into self-belief can significantly boost your confidence, empowering you to take decisions fearlessly and with conviction.

Remember, every decision you make shapes your reality. So why not shape it with purpose and power? Just like a photographer adjusting his lens to capture the perfect shot, you too can adjust your mindset to make effective decisions.

Reframing, combined with logical thought, deduction, and critical thinking, is a powerful tool that can turn obstacles into opportunities. And remember, in the words of Epictetus, “Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them”.

So, it’s time to reassess, rethink, and reframe your way to a more decisive you. Start today. Start now. Your decision-making power awaits.

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Navigating the Formal and Informal Organization within Your Company

In every company, there are two types of organizations that operate simultaneously: formal and informal. One is officially recognized, while the other is more organic and often difficult to detect.

Understanding the differences between these two organizations is crucial for managers and CEOs, as it can help them navigate complex social structures, increase communication and collaboration, and ultimately, achieve their organization’s goals.

In this blog post, we will compare and contrast the formal vs. informal organization within a company so that you can better understand how to manage both effectively.

First, The Paradox

Formal organization refers to the official structure within a company. It incorporates the company’s policies, procedures, and responsibilities. Formal organization is often spelled out in an organizational chart, and it follows a hierarchical structure.

Employees understand what is expected of them and who their superiors are. Formal organizations have clear lines of communication and decision-making, which help to maintain order and prevent confusion.

On the other hand, the informal organization is not officially recognized but is instead a network of relationships between employees. It’s how employees interact, collaborate and communicate with each other.

The informal organization is based on social structures and shared values, which means it can be very difficult to identify. However, it can be a powerful force and, if it’s harnessed properly, it can promote creativity, collaboration, and innovation.


One of the major differences between formal and informal organization is the way communication happens. In formal organization, communication is straightforward, and information flows from the top down.

In contrast, informal organization is more likely to use informal communication channels like word of mouth or social media.

Decision Making

Another important difference is the way decisions are made. In the formal organization, decisions are made by managers or executives. In contrast, informal organizations can lead to more democratic decision-making, with employees having a greater say in the decisions that are made.

But despite the benefits of the informal organization, it can also cause problems for managers who may overlook it or struggle to navigate the informal structures within their organization.

Indeed, when the informal organization clashes with the formal organization, it can create conflict, confusion and impact the overall productivity of the company.

Career Growth

Creating a true career path for yourself involves operating within both parts of an organization; the formal and the informal.

Following policies and procedures invoked by the formal organization is a requirement. Making change happen within these boundaries can be difficult, but is doable for the person who properly learns the expectations within the formal organization.

But leveraging the informal organization is an undeniable force that many people fail to use. Becoming a networker who can meet with and embrace the powers of the informal organization has benefit. Being a “good team player” is often recognized as a strength, particularly in the informal organization.


In conclusion, understanding the differences between formal and informal organization can help managers and CEOs navigate the complex social structures in their company.

Both organizations are essential to the smooth running of any company, and harnessing them effectively can lead to better communication, innovation, and collaboration.

While the formal organization is official and provides order and structure, the informal organization enables employees to communicate and collaborate more freely and can lead to greater creativity. Effective management means harnessing both to create a strong and productive organization.

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Change by Choice or by Chance

As I look back on my career, the major milestones are combinations of things done by choice and some by chance.

I would like to claim I had made all of my decisions by choice, not chance. That simply would not be true. Regardless of the reason for making a move, in all cases, change was the common requirement.

Whether I made a job change or location move by choice, change was there. The occasional chance happenings still required some form of change on my part.

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You can try to plan your career (and I encourage everyone to do so), but some things happen by chance that alter the course of the best laid plans. Circumstances can change in an instant when companies get acquired or spun off.

Market crashes and economics alter what would have been the plan. Layoffs happen and lives are changed. Or you get unexpectedly recognized for an accomplishment and you are whisked off to another assignment.

Big change can occur almost instantly. The question is what are you going to do with such a change?

After my book “The Uncommon Commodity” was released, I got this note from a longtime friend and college buddy:

For some reason your book has pulled a one liner out of my sub-conscience, which is “if you don’t like the result, change something”.

My Dad hammered into my brother and me that one of the biggest constants in your life is CHANGE. The way he said it is “you will find the only thing that won’t change for the rest of your lives is CHANGE” or “the only thing in life that is constant is CHANGE”. He would follow that with “the better you are at adapting to change and solving problems, the better off you will be”.

Great principal no doubt, but I have found that effecting change within ourselves (I should just say within me since that is all I have control over) is very difficult. Sometimes we have to be inspired and sometimes we have been trying to make changes, but, for whatever reason, have not been successful in either making any change or in making effective changes. The human tendency to stay with or return to what we are comfortable with is a very strong instinct and quite often prevents us from making effective change.

And finally, sometimes we humans want to make changes, but don’t have the knowledge to make the best or most effective changes. That seems to be where encouragement, mentoring and life coaching stands to be most effective.

Change is a Brain Thing

When faced with change, our bodies go into a fight or flight mode. Using an extreme example, when our cavemen forefathers were surprised by a wild beast in the woods, THAT was an immediate change. In just a nanosecond, they had to decide whether to fight or flee.

Our bodies have a natural mechanism to react to sudden change. It’s part of our survival instincts. Our brains drive that response mechanism.

In our current more modern setting, science has proven we can alter our thought patterns to manage our response to many things, chief of which is our reaction to change.

In 1949, Donald Hebb, a Canadian neuropsychologist known for his work in the field of associative learning, coined the phrase “Neurons that fire together , wire together.” Hebb’s axiom reminds us that every experience, thought, feeling, and physical sensation triggers thousands of neurons, which form a neural network. When you repeat an experience over and over, the brain learns to trigger the same neurons each time.

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Awareness of the need for change can allow each of us to condition our thought habits to respond more positively in the face of change rather than negatively.

Old Habits Die Hard

Practical experience tells me that old habits die hard. I’ve coached way too many professionals who simply freeze like deer in headlights when major change comes their way.

Events happening more by chance than choice have a greater probability to triggering the wrong response.

At least when you’ve made a choice to do something, the change factor is mitigated by your own thought process to get there (through the change). However, an event happening by chance is a whole different story.

Therefore, when a sudden change happens by chance, your response mechanism needs to be trained to handle the change. People who perpetually struggle to accept change will be routinely thrown out of balance by the chance happenings in their life.

How are you equipped to deal with change in your life? Share some insights.


Here’s a video I shot talking about this choice versus chance dimension.

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7 Vital Tactics for Managers to Have Constructive Difficult Discussions

As a manager or a CEO, it is only normal to have that occasional conversation that seems to linger in your mind for days or even weeks. Difficult conversations are hardly soothing, but they can be remarkably productive if handled correctly.

Crucial conversations are inevitable in every organizational structure, but with proper preparation, the outcome can be both helpful and meaningful. In this article, we examine seven practical tactics that will help managers have difficult discussions and turn them into a positive experience for all parties involved.

Active Listening

Active listening is a critical tactic that any manager should adopt during difficult conversations. When having discussions, it’s essential to practice active listening by paying close attention to what the other person is saying.

Avoid assuming you already understand what they’re about to say or interrupting them; instead, listen patiently to their point of view. Try to be empathetic and understand their side of the story, which is incredibly critical to gaining perspective.

Listening to their perspective will enable you to build trust with them, as you are now seen as a caring and considerate person.

Stay Calm

Difficult conversations can cause an adrenaline rush, and it’s all too easy to lose your cool in moments like these. Stay calm and collected during these conversations, and try to keep emotions in check.

When you keep your emotions under control, you will be able to articulate your thoughts more effectively and listen actively. In addition, staying calm can help you navigate any resistance you might encounter.

Have a Game Plan

One of the most practical tactics for having a difficult discussion is to go into it with a plan. Having a game plan helps you remain on the right track and stay focused.

Start by defining your objectives and decide what points you would like to communicate during the conversation. Having a clear understanding of what you want to achieve will help you stay on course and maintain your focus throughout the conversation.

Be Clear and Concise

During difficult conversations, it’s vital to keep your message simple and clear, with no ambiguities. Be prepared to be direct, concise, and honest.

Avoid softening the conversation with unnecessary apologies or repeatedly saying “it’s not easy for me to tell you this.” This will only make the other party defensive and will not address the issue adequately.

Be clear and concise with your message so that the other party understands the gravity of the situation.

Share Solutions

Having a difficult conversation doesn’t have to be a one-way conversation. Encourage the other party to share their solutions to the challenge at hand.

They might have insights that you haven’t considered, which could be useful and resolve the problem. Collaboration can make it possible to find a workable solution to whatever challenge you are trying to address.

Use Positive Language

The language you use during difficult conversations can trigger a positive or a negative emotion in the other party. To maintain a constructive conversation, use positive language throughout.

Avoid using words that can be interpreted as confrontational or intimidating. Instead, opt for words that encourage solutions and commitment to actions.


To ensure that the conversation was productive, follow up after the meeting to ensure that the other party understands your position and what is expected of them.

Additionally, check-in periodically to ensure that the previous resolution reached still works and attempt to make modifications if necessary.


Difficult conversations are not pleasant, but they are essential. As a manager, you must know how to have difficult conversations effectively to avoid unproductive confrontations that affect productivity. Adopt the above tactics to have productive, constructive discussions that can help your team grow and achieve more. With these seven practical tactics for navigating tough conversations, you will undoubtedly come out of the conversation with a clearer understanding of the problem and a resolution that benefits both parties. Harness the power of these strategies to revolutionize challenging conversations!

If you need help becoming a better leader, providing the right kind of effective feedback, let’s talk.

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Sunday Sun: Stop Putting Your Hand on the Stove

Avoid These 7 Common Mistakes Business Owners Make Repeatedly

When I was a child, I was curious, always have been. There were times the curiosity got the best of me. Like when Mom kept saying don’t touch the hot stove.

All I thought about was the mystery of what would happen. I didn’t know what it meant to burn my fingers (at least not yet). Yes, you can guess where this is going.

Sure enough, one day, Mom had just taken a hot pot off the stove top. She turned her back and I launched into action. Slowly raising my delicate little fingers toward the burner, I reach out. The effect was instant. I felt searing pain course through my hand. I was certain my finger had been removed. I looked down to see a smoldering spot that had formerly been my finger tip.

Lesson learned. Nope, I never did that again.

Starting a business and running it successfully is a challenging task. In the process, business owners are likely to make mistakes. It is normal and human to make mistakes! However, some of these mistakes can be detrimental to the growth and sustainability of the business, especially if the business owner keeps making the same mistakes over and over again.

As an entrepreneur, you need to avoid these common business mistakes if you want to thrive in your industry and achieve success. In this post, we will discuss seven common mistakes that entrepreneurs make and continue to make repeatedly. Stop touching the stove!

Here we go…

Overestimating profits and underestimating expenses: One of the common mistakes business owners make when starting a business is to overestimate their profits while underestimating their expenses. This can lead to financial problems and inability to meet business obligations. It is important to have a realistic idea of the profits and expenses your business is expected to generate.

Failing to have a business plan: A business plan is a vital component of any business. It helps to define the purpose, goals, and strategies of the business. Failing to have a business plan can result in poor decision-making, ineffective use of resources, and a lack of direction. As an entrepreneur, you need to have a well-thought-out business plan to guide your business decisions and actions.

Not delegating tasks: As a business owner, it is understandable to want to be in control of every aspect of the business. However, this can be counter-productive and stressful. Not delegating tasks to employees or outsourcing them can lead to burnout, missed opportunities, and a lack of growth. Learn to trust your employees and delegate tasks to them.

Not staying up to date with industry trends and changes: Business is continuously evolving, and it is important to stay informed about the latest industry trends, regulations, and changes. Failure to keep up with industry developments can lead to outdated business strategies and practices, loss of market share, and dwindling customer base.

Failing to have a marketing strategy: Marketing is a crucial aspect of any business. A well-defined marketing strategy helps to create brand awareness, attract and retain customers, and drive sales. Not having a well-defined marketing strategy can lead to poor customer engagement, a lack of sales, and a negative impact on your business’s bottom line.

Not analyzing business data: Collecting and analyzing business data is essential to understand how your business is performing. Failure to analyze business data can lead to missed opportunities, poor financial decisions, and a lack of understanding of customer needs and preferences. Take time to collect and analyze business data to get insights and make informed decisions about your business.

Neglecting customer service: Customers are the lifeblood of any business. Neglecting customer service can result in negative reviews, a lack of customer retention, and low customer loyalty. Make sure you prioritize your customer service by providing personalized attention, listening to their feedback, and promptly resolving any issues that arise.


Being a successful business owner is not easy, and it requires making smart decisions and avoiding common mistakes. By avoiding the seven common mistakes discussed in this post, you can increase your chances of success, grow your business, and achieve your goals.

Remember, it is okay to make mistakes, as long as you learn from them and take steps to avoid repeating them in the future.

Just stop touching that stove!

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Sunday Sun: Confessions of a Boomer Dad

Where are we really going?

Ok, I probably lost you at the title. I am not ashamed to admit I am a Boomer, but truthfully I often feel like a Millennial trapped in this body. That’s a whole other story, not for this post. But here we go anyway.

Over the past couple of weeks, I have been hearing laments from younger people around me. Arguably, young people who could be my adult kids. There are so many issues they are struggling to resolve. The issues include work, return to school, job changes, relationships, obligations, etc. You could say it is pretty much everything adults face while living in the Big League of adulthood.

I was just about settled in on the idea “they’ll figure it out and be OK.” Then I received a feed about ‘hey hanging.’

Apparently, ‘hey hanging’ is a thing. And it is a growing source of actual anxiety, mainly at work. It involves the text or Slack post saying simply “Hey”. Nothing more, just Hey. It’s the pregnant pause, the unfulfilled message, the disappointed ending, … whatever. Apparently sending the message ‘hey’ and saying nothing else, is now giving folks anxiety.


For me, that was too much. It returned my thoughts about all the other recent moments where I’ve tried to counsel and consult to help young adults solve problems lately.

This is where my Boomer mindset jumps out. I want to scream “buckle up Butter Cup.”

Are you serious to tell me a Hey hang is going to cause you anxiety? Please go get a life. It’s not all about you Tinker Bell.

There are so many other life-changing issues you may face. When a medical crisis, or a job loss, or a relationship break happens, those are worthy of having anxiety. But getting an incomplete message like ‘hey’ from a boss or co-worker? Really????

Obviously, those who are feeling anxiety over that have not suffered true hardship yet. It’s never a matter of if, but when.

The more I think about it, I am actually very proud of my own kids and the way they have handled strife, fixed things, and made decisions to better their life. There hasn’t been any whining. No running away crying about it. Yes, there have been hurts and pain, but there has been resolve to come to workable, valuable solutions.


I am concerned about where the world is headed. As an example, I have educators in my clan. Their struggle is very real. The population at-large attending public school has no level of self-discipline. It’s an old-fashioned free for all in the classroom. Administrators are siding with parents, who themselves seem to think having a wild, out of control child is someone else’s problem.

Further, the rare child who genuinely wants to learn at school is disrupted or shamed for being a “try hard.” Yes, that too is a thing now.

Then there is the addiction crisis. I had an amazing visit with Adam Gunton on my podcast this week. Adam got addicted to crack at age 12, yet he went through high school totally undetected. He was an “A” student, played sports with great results (Little League World Series, state champs in football, etc.). The point of the story is that we may never know who is struggling with what. And it is a growing very real (unlike hey-hanging) concern.


When I speak to clients, audiences, and my podcast listeners, I share one common message. We need leaders. When you look around, there are so many opportunities for a family, a group, a church, an organization or a company to do more and be more. The only limiting factor is the leadership.

On one hand, there are some great leaders out there. Sadly, too few of them are willing to enter the political ring, but that too is another subject for another day.

On the other hand, I see good people being emotionally and psychologically abused by managers and people in positions of authority. You can’t even call them leaders. They are simply very bad bosses. It happens in business every day, but it also happens in other sectors like churches, synagogues, mosques, non-profits and volunteer organizations. It’s just sad when people work their way into positions of authority and have no capacity to truly lead the people of that organization.

I’ve lived long enough to see dozens of examples first-hand. I’ve been the target. And, if I have ever been guilty of being the perpetrator, my sincere apologies to those who may have felt harmed.

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Sunday Sun: Thinking About My Mentors and Being One

After reading an article from Gino Wickman where he reflected on his mentors, I was immediately sent down memory lane looking back on mine. If you’ve followed my blog or paodcast for long, you likely have heard me tell the story of lifelong mentorship.

Being raised the only child of a hard working single Mom, I had dozens of mentors. Mom had the wisdom to recruit and surround me with men who could help me grow. It became such an integral part of my life that I never feared reaching out to add mentors to my circle as the years went by.

To this day, I can start doing something and recall one of the mentors showing me how. George was my woodworking, handyman, golfing buddy mentor. David was tennis and fishing. Jack was scoutmaster, character builder, man of living faith. Col. Hal Gaines was leadership, integrity, and good humor influence. Wayne Stark was visionary, dreamer, and do-er. And the list is as deep as it is wide. There are so many more, but you get the idea.

As I think about mentoring, I have known for a long time that it is my turn to be the guy. And I have when the moment arises. Yet I always wonder if I’ve done it as impactful as the ones I had. Only time will tell.

To be specific, here are thoughts I am pondering for my mentees in 2023.

Stopping the Noise

The world around us is filled with noise. You can blame social media, technology, and mainstream news for the clutter in our lives. It is just that – overwhelming clutter. If you try to pay attention to all your pings, feeds, emails, pokes, swipes, nudges, and follows, you may just go mad in the process.

You have to be careful. What we feed our brains becomes the neural pathways that shape future thoughts and ideas. You are what you eat is not quite the explanation, but it says a lot. I think it is more about the message substance. Darkness or doubt, fear and trepidation are all over the media. Disaster and dread sell headlines. So beware.

I have known very successful people who simply turn it off. They stay unplugged for LOOONNNGGG periods of time. When they do plug back in, it is for very specific reasons.

The Ability to Think Critically

I may call this a pet peeve. I routinely encourage clients to learn more about critical thinking. Our mainstream education systems have stopped helping children learn critical thinking skills. There is too much ‘teaching to the test.’ I’ve begun discussions with 20- and 30-year-olds on this topic who have no idea what critical thinking even means.

It is important because that is how major business decisions get made. Critical thinking must be deployed and engaged to allow the effective processing of information and a wide variety of inputs to arrive at a conclusion that makes sense, serves its purpose, and wins the day of the business.

Catching the AI Wave

We all know AI is looming and growing fast. But what is anyone who is simply trying to grow a private business needing to know? On this topic I am swimming as fast as I can to learn, know and grow with it. I’ve always been an early adopter of new things. It means I have suffered the BetaMax, the flip phone, and the Blackberry, but I also learned HTML, web design, and some other cool things along the way. (but I admit to balking at blockchain and bitcoin). Hmmm – I just saw something here. Maybe “B” words are fails – BetaMax, Blackberry, blockchain, bitcoin. Is that a pattern? I digress

I look at AI the same way I have looked at other tech. When the big guys are investing, I need to take it seriously.

Becoming a Better leader

Last, but certainly not least, becoming a better leader is big on my mind. The world is hurting for solid leaders. Not people with agendas, but people who see the value in a cause, mission or purpose and step up to lead the effort to get there.

Critical issues that face our communities, states and countries are being derailed and stalled because of agendas and lack of good leadership. Various funding sources drive outcomes not the people tasked with leading the effort. And, sadly, the public stage initiatives do not get the benefit of good experienced leaders because no good leader wants to get in the middle of the mess.

If more people were willing to step up right where they are and be the leader a group needs, we could see so much more progress toward a greater good. Call me naive, but I believe that with all my heart.


So that’s it. As I mentor folks, these are some of my thoughts. Levae me a comment if you disagree or think I’ve missed something.

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Why You Should Consider a Peer to Peer Advisory Group for Personal Growth

Personal growth is an essential aspect of our lives. We all want to be the best versions of ourselves, achieve our goals and lead a fulfilling life. But sometimes, it’s easy to feel lost, overwhelmed or unsure of where to turn for guidance or support. This is where a peer to peer advisory group can help.

Peer to peer advisory groups are made up of like-minded individuals who come together to share their experiences, knowledge, and advice. They offer an opportunity to connect with others who are on the same journey, learn from their successes and failures, and receive valuable feedback and support. In this article, we’ll explore why you should consider joining a peer to peer advisory group for personal growth, and how it can help you achieve your goals and lead a more fulfilling life.

Benefits of joining a peer to peer advisory group

Joining a peer to peer advisory group can have numerous benefits. Here are some of the most significant advantages of joining such a group:

### 1. New Perspectives

When you join a peer to peer advisory group, you are exposed to different perspectives and ideas. This can help you see things from a new angle, which can be incredibly valuable when you’re trying to solve a problem or make a decision. You’ll also have an opportunity to learn from others’ experiences, which can help you avoid making the same mistakes.

### 2. Accountability

One of the most significant benefits of joining a peer to peer advisory group is accountability. When you’re accountable to others, you’re more likely to follow through on your commitments and goals. Knowing that you’ll have to report your progress to the group can be a powerful motivator.

### 3. Support

Personal growth can be a challenging journey, and it’s essential to have a support system in place. When you join a peer to peer advisory group, you’ll have a group of individuals who are committed to helping you succeed. They’ll be there to offer advice, encouragement, and support when you need it most.

### 4. Networking

Joining a peer to peer advisory group is an excellent way to expand your network. You’ll have an opportunity to meet new people who share your interests and goals. This can lead to new business or career opportunities, as well as new friendships.

### 5. Skill Development

Peer to peer advisory groups are an excellent opportunity to develop new skills. You’ll have an opportunity to learn from others who have expertise in areas where you may be lacking. This can help you develop skills that are essential for personal growth and career advancement.

Peer to peer advisory group statistics

Peer to peer advisory groups have become increasingly popular in recent years. According to a study conducted by the Harvard Business Review, 70% of CEOs belong to a peer to peer advisory group. The study also found that CEOs who belong to a peer to peer advisory group reported higher levels of job satisfaction and were more likely to achieve their goals.

How to find the right peer to peer advisory group for you

Finding the right peer to peer advisory group can be challenging, but it’s essential to take the time to find a group that’s the right fit for you. Here are some tips for finding the right group:

### 1. Define your goals

Before you start looking for a group, it’s essential to define your goals. What do you hope to achieve by joining a peer to peer advisory group? Are you looking for business advice, personal development, or both?

### 2. Conduct research

Once you’ve defined your goals, start researching peer to peer advisory groups in your area. Look for groups that align with your interests and goals. You can also ask for recommendations from friends or colleagues.

### 3. Attend a meeting

Before you commit to a group, attend a meeting to get a sense of the group dynamics and culture. This will help you determine if the group is the right fit for you.

### 4. Consider the cost

Peer to peer advisory groups can be expensive, so it’s essential to consider the cost before joining. Make sure the group’s benefits outweigh the cost.

What to expect from a peer to peer advisory group meeting

Peer to peer advisory group meetings typically include a structured agenda and are led by a facilitator. Here’s what you can expect from a typical meeting:

### 1. Introductions

The meeting will typically start with introductions. Each member will have an opportunity to introduce themselves and share their goals for the meeting.

### 2. Updates

Members will then provide updates on their progress since the last meeting. This is an opportunity for members to report on their progress towards their goals and receive feedback from the group.

### 3. Hot seat

The hot seat is a segment where one member presents a specific problem or challenge they are currently facing. The rest of the group then provides feedback and advice.

### 4. Closing thoughts

The meeting will typically end with closing thoughts from each member. This is an opportunity to reflect on what was discussed during the meeting and share any final thoughts or insights.

Tips for making the most of your peer to peer advisory group experience

If you’re considering joining a peer to peer advisory group, here are some tips for making the most of your experience:

### 1. Be open-minded

It’s essential to be open-minded and receptive to new ideas and perspectives. Remember that the group is made up of individuals with different backgrounds and experiences.

### 2. Be prepared

Come to each meeting prepared with specific goals and challenges you’d like to address. This will help you make the most of your time with the group.

### 3. Participate

Peer to peer advisory groups are designed to be interactive, so it’s essential to participate fully in each meeting. Share your experiences, offer feedback to others, and be an active listener.

### 4. Stay committed

Personal growth takes time and effort, so it’s essential to stay committed to the group and the process. Attend each meeting and follow through on your commitments.

Success stories from peer to peer advisory group members

Peer to peer advisory groups have helped many individuals achieve their goals and lead a more fulfilling life. Here are some success stories from peer to peer advisory group members:

### 1. Increased revenue

A business owner joined a peer to peer advisory group to get advice on how to increase revenue. Through the group’s feedback and advice, the business owner was able to implement new strategies that led to a significant increase in revenue.

### 2. New career opportunities

A member of a peer to peer advisory group was looking for a career change. Through the group’s networking opportunities, the member was able to connect with a new employer and land a job in a new field.

### 3. Improved work-life balance

A member of a peer to peer advisory group was feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. Through the group’s support and advice, the member was able to develop new strategies for managing their workload and achieving a better work-life balance.

Conclusion: Is a peer to peer advisory group right for you?

Joining a peer to peer advisory group can be a valuable investment in your personal and professional growth. It offers an opportunity to connect with like-minded individuals, learn from others’ experiences, and receive feedback and support. If you’re committed to personal growth and are looking for a support system to help you achieve your goals, then a peer to peer advisory group may be right for you.